At our support group meetings, participants frequently relate that their mates came out to them originally as bisexual, but later changed that description to gay or lesbian. Instead of spying, we recommend asking the question as many times and different ways you can, to discover the truth.
Generous Space is an Ontario-based group with 30 chapters nation-wide. It's weeded out people I don't want in my life anyway.
And we also actively work to squash biphobia among our peers who may think that all bi people are unfaithful or confused. Sometimes called drag queens or kings. But the decision to join one of those congregations is not the slam-dunk you might imagine.
I definitely think there's a conversation to be had about the role compulsory heterosexuality plays in who we choose as partners before coming out.
It's statements like this that are problematic. If you're bisexual, you've probably had someone ask you what "percent straight," and what "percent gay" you are. Funny enough, I was more afraid of coming out to my stepping stone to a gay identity and could be at, especially my college friends, than coming out to my boyfriend.
That would really hurt. Generally speaking, you have been dealing with the fact that you are LGBT for much longer than your spouse has. Some Baptist, Anglican and Lutheran churches embrace sexual diversity, and the United Church has long practised inclusion.
Many folks, however, questioned his bisexuality in the media, saying that he is surely later to come out as gay. Imagine if you came out as gay to a fellow queer, and he responded with, Nahhhh, you're not gay. Because when you get rid of the petty I told you so, you quickly realize you can only hurt someone by dismissing their coming out process and sexual identity.